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4 GOOD MANNERS THAT CHILDREN OFTEN FORGET

1.The child interrupts a conversation
2. He forgets polite forms of address in interactions with others
3. Bad table manners
4. The child is rude during the visits

 Good manners are a set of behavioural rules that the child must respect in public and in interactions with others. It is also an insight into how we educate and discipline as a parent.

 Even if you take care to teach him when he is little how to treat others, they interact with others in society, there are some rules of politeness that children often tend to forget them. Here are some manners you must insist more in disciplining your child!

The child interrupts a conversation
 One of the first good manners that parents teach children is to not interrupt others when talking on the phone or wearing a dialogue with others. Is the first rule of behaviour that children tend to forget.
Although often tell you not allowed to interrupt someone while talking on the phone or child, impatient by nature, cannot help but pull yourself sleeve often pay attention to them.

 When he sees that is no reaction from you, he begins to scream becoming louder, and if even this method does not work, break out in a huff.

 It is important to keep your temper and to explain, repeatedly, how to behave in such situations. If you break the rules constantly established and consequences (punishment) for breaking the rules.

Forgets forms of address and politeness in interactions with others

Every time the child meets a person, whoever it is, he must know how to use formulas correct addressing:

Hello; goodbye; thank you; Nice to meet you; please.

 The child must be taught that there are differences between how should it be address to an adult and one where it does with a child or with familiar people. These rules are difficult to remember by a little a few years old.

 There are quite a few in number, and until you get accustomed Who should you address it “a good day” or “you” and who the “you” or “good” will take some time. A simple solution usable by you learn to retain them easier is role play.

 It helps to put the child in various situations imaginary and to practice with him all forms of address in contexts appropriate.

Bad table manners
 Rules of etiquette at the table are quite a lot and as much as you explain it to the child, he does not always understand what is not allowed to:
sit with the elbows on the table;
talk while eating;
get up from the table before finish everyone to eat;
no Smack or sips soup;
eat before the others.

 Be an example for him and behave yourself at the table as you want to wear it because learning is best by example. The child retains and more easily understands the role of good manners in his behaviours if he sees that others do the same.

The child is rude during the visits

 Perhaps in theory you explain what are the rules of etiquette during the visit and why they are necessary. I’ve said probably not allowed to:
They spread their toys everywhere;
to jump in bed or running around the house;
to interrupt the conversations of others;
to sound strongly hammers or door etc.

 But when it comes to practice, the child suffers sudden “amnesia” and frequently returns to normal behaviour: screaming, crying as was bored, like the computer, do not sit at the table etc.
It is recommended to talk to him about these rules and practice them in various role plays. Even if you’ve already made a “duty” and have all taught the child how to behave appropriately in public, at mass, at school or to visit, there will always be situations where it breaks the rules and forget everything you learned so perseverance.

 It is important to remember that at a young age, the child is not a big fan of rules, but rather full of freedom and independence.
Remembering or repeating constant modelling good behaviour underlies a well-bred child.

What are the manners that your child often tends to forget? How do you remind them constantly? Tell us your opinions in the comments section below.

HOW NOT TO TEACH CHILDREN ABOUT MODESTY

1. Do not associate modesty to fashion
2. Do not give to understand that it is responsible for what others are thinking or
3. Do not associate modesty with beauty
4. Do not associate modesty with gender
5. Do not expect the little to be modest, so if you’re not

Modesty is a difficult concept to understand for children at young ages, so it is an issue to be dealt with when they are teenager’s. It is an essential virtue for any man, from whom earn respect, sympathy and friends around him. It is also a mirror for the respect and consideration that the child wears it and show it to others.

Wanting to learn them more easily what this means virtue, parents tend to fall prey to common mistakes in how they teach their children to be modest!


No modesty associate to fashion

Just because a person wears eccentric, opulent or vulgar clothing does not mean it is immodest. Therefore, it is advisable to introduce the child’s modesty in light of how they to choose their clothes or not. It’s true that some people send various messages or signals through clothing, but they are not connected specifically with modesty.

Modesty is involved in all aspects of life, not just in the style of clothing chosen. Most of all, reflected in behaviour. Must see “beyond clothes” when you talk to the child about modesty, and the discussion always refer to the respect that you have to wear against your body, but also for others.
Talks about his fashion sense and those are two separate issues about modesty. The rarent should discuss about them separately to avoid making remarks that the little do not insult the people around him who dresses strident or eccentric.

Do not give to understand that it is responsible for what others are thinking or

Do not try to encourage your child to behave or dress as others would like to do so or to be held responsible for what you say or think about those around him. Teach him to know himself better and always do things or to dress as she likes feeling and, of course, taking care to respect the rules and appropriate boundaries in society.

Do not associate modesty with beauty

Modesty does not make you more beautiful and not at all about aesthetics. Modesty is rather the respect that the child has for himself, but for those around him: from the way they dress, talk, react to others’ problems etc. Many parents are trying to convey to children the idea that modesty is a quality desirable associating it with beauty. But beauty is relative, while not modesty.

Do not associate modesty  with gender

Do not try to discriminate on the basis of gender when it comes to modesty, as is desirable equally to both sexes. Do not try to promote the idea that girls should be more modest in nature than boys. It is advisable to promote modesty as a virtue that every person must possess and capitalize in his life, whether it is male or female.

Do not expect the little to be modest, if you’re not
The easiest way the child learns what it means to be modest by your example. Therefore, it is important to be a positive role model in this respect: to have always a common sense, to respect your neighbour, no matter what, and respect yourself enough not to put yourself in situations disparaging or demeaning. It is also important not to ever amaze by what you do not declare yourself better or superior to others and not offend anyone.

WHEN TO LET YOUR CHILD TO DROP A COURSE OR AN ACTIVITY

1. “Sometimes in life, we must do things we do not like to do.” A good philosophy”?
2. Resistance of the child in front of a new activity, the reason to give up?
3. Find always causes underlying the categorical refusal
4. When is appropriate not to insist?

Wanting to them exploit the intellectual and physical potential, and to help him to test as many interesting activities, tend to register your child in classes and sports without consulting him beforehand. Although signs that some activities are not exactly what he likes, not conceive the idea of him withdraw from them, being aware of the benefits they have in development.

Is it wise to force the child to do what you want or let him decide for themselves? Here’s what the experts say that are situations where it is better to give than to let him push him!

“Sometimes in life, we must do things we do not like.” A good philosophy?
Many parents go on the idea that compel the child to go to tennis or chess lessons is more important than what he wants. Consider forcing a compromise beneficial to his development, helping him learn that in life, will have to do and things which are not always pleasing.

According to specialists Jenn Berman, PhD in psychology and author of “The A to Z Guide to Raising Happy, Confident Kids”, adopting such a philosophy has a pragmatic side in child discipline. However, it is a supporter of the idea that it is better to let your child have the last word when it comes to hobbies, passions or extracurricular activities.

               Resistance of a child in front of a new activity, the reason to give up?
Not always child’s refusal to do various activities is a sign that you have to give up the idea of putting it. The child often opposes because of enrolling in such a program takes it out of his comfort zone.

Another reason is that it has a decreased ability of adaptability to new, not necessarily because they do not like, American paediatrician Ari Brown says. Toddler not stand in wire assume unnecessary risks, so that if you put in front of an activity that has not heard or who has not tested it, will insist that he does not like. In such cases, the baby must be less pushed back to better know and discover the true whether or not to his liking.

If after 2-3 courses or sessions, the child insists he does not want to walk or show signs of anxiety whenever it is almost time to go to football, chess, painting or other activities, it means it is not ready and that appropriate to wait or to test another hobby.

                    Always find out the causes underlying the categorical refusal

It is advisable to analyse in detail the child’s behaviour in the face of opposition one new activities and find out what are the causes for refusing to attend or to leave a camp with colleagues. Most often, the reasons are definitely emotional. For example, if the child wants to quit piano lessons right when approaching a recital, it is possible that reason be stage fright or shyness. Do not draw conclusions but before talking to him. Take him aside and express your concern about this change and nervousness or irritability which he felt in his condition. Ask him what has changed and if afraid of anything, since by then he enjoyed the activity. An open discussion it helps you bring out the real reason why he wants to quit. It can help easier and decide whether or not to withdraw the case. The possibility that his anxiety not have a trigger real but imaginary and, in fact, that even to like activity. If you discover it together and help him overcome them to continue to put his passion into practice. When to not insist? When you decide to register your child for some activities, ask yourself if you do it for the right reasons or not. If you choose the passions that you want very much to learn them or because you’ve wished you were a child your parents you have registered with them, doing the wrong reasons. Do not forget that, ultimately, these activities should not to like you, but your child’s age and be adequate to attract sufficient significant benefits in development. Here are the child’s behavioural signs in front of whom have to give up insistence to pursue an extracurricular activity:

  • He does not speak at all about these courses, although they practiced for a long time; It is indifferent to everything related to sports or that course; not trying to deepen what they learn at home courses; constantly complains he does not like sport or that course;
  • grabs belly ache, headache and malaise whenever it is almost time to go to training or courses;
  • do not evolve at all or make little progress in that activity;
  • not notice any improvement in his physical or intellectual condition or emotional development;
  • stay retired and do not make friends in the groups of children they attend classes;
  • It is apathetic or frightened or who often comes home from training or course.

All these manifestations of child behavioural send a clear message: the activity does not cause him any pleasure. Instead, it creates frustrations and consider it a chore. It is important to succumb to these behavioural signals and trigger interest them to another activity or sport, which might fit better.


But do not give up completely the idea to enrol him in extracurricular activities or sports. It is important to approach a sport, though not competitively, so we encourage them to be active and to stay away from harmful influence of a TV or computers on his health.

Have you ever forced your child to do an activity that he didn’t want to do? If it’s so, why? If not, why did you gave up? Tell us your opinions in the comments section below.

HOW TO DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD?


Children are very curious, they want to know everything that moves around them, and this often puts them in trouble. The children learn the world through experimentation and need guidance from you part to find out what is right and what is wrong.
At the young children, aged between 1 and 3 years, the discipline should be based on positive and not punitive methods.
 Here are some basic principles that you should consider when they want parents to discipline children:

1. Be patient with your child when you learn new things and praise him every time he has a success;
2. When your child is involved in an action that causes you trouble attract his attention to another activity.  This strategy will work much better than if you repeat “No!”, “You’re not allowed!” or “Stop!”.
3. Do not enter into discussions with no final with your child!
4. You have to remind them often with the child appropriate behaviour in a given situation before the message really be received;
5. Toddler does not understand the penalties, chances for him to learn something after being punished are very small. It is better to be gentle and firm when you ask certain things pertaining to behaviour;

6. If the baby is exposed to dangerous situations must intervene quickly in the strongest way possible. Basically, you get up in arms and we remove the potential danger to which one was exposed;
7. Do not forget to reward him and praise him whenever doing something right. In this way you will be encouraged to take further exemplary behaviour.
8. Remember that sometimes to win the war, you need to lose a few battles. Do not get mad for each small child escape because in this way you will have a tense relationship, and you certainly do not ever you can relax.
9.Choose important battles – for example, it’s important to learn that it is imperative to hold your hand when crossing the street and less meant that wants one day to go to kindergarten hat on his head when outside is 30 degrees.

What should you know about disciplining young children?

Disciplining does not mean punishment, but learning the rules and guidance of children in a constructive manner;

There must be rules and consequences for breaking the rules, but do not resort to extreme punishment! By doing so the child could not remember than the punishment itself and not the reasons that led to it;

Adjust your expectations and analyse the things. Ask yourself if it is reasonable to expect of you small child to have a certain type of behaviour. Some parents expect too much from their children, and this leads to tension endless and unnecessary annoyance.

Problem behaviour of the young child
All the children are doing crazy things from time to time because at this age their curiosity pushes them to new situations. Breaking a few cups and vases, toys and spoil will fall sometimes hide and seek park while playing with their friends. These things are normal and should not be punished.

But also appear problematic behaviour’s such crises in public, naughty language toward parents and other adults or aggression on the playground. Such behaviours should be treated more carefully.

First, in addressing them should reflect on the cause that produces them. Foul language and aggression may be copied either in the family or in kindergarten, the playground or the persons you leave alone (nanny, friends, neighbours, grandparents). If you identify and remove the source of this behaviour in the child’s life in a short time you will see a change.

Another explanation for such behaviour could be that he wants to get your attention. He does not know yet distinguish between positive and negative attention and know that by doing such things, you will definitely capture your full attention, maybe more than if you get an A.

Think if something is missing from this point of view, may have been too busy lately and have not had time to play with it more and therefore react so. Analyses and when you first noticed these things, what happened before and could cause this behaviour.

Crises in public are also part of the parent and even the most obedient child in the world had such an episode. When there this kind of thing is repeating often then there are something wrong.

Children do such crises when parents do not indulge – do not buy toy / cake that they really want, do not want to stay another hour in the playground, no longer allowed on television. The children do not know how to do something else if they do not like, irritates, frustrates, and because they cannot control emotions, as do adults react in an exaggerated way.

Once the parent gives up in the face of such crises, the child screams and cries will use whenever something will be pleased and will use this behaviour to accomplish this end. It is a very simple principle; he knows that if he acts in this way his parents will give up.

The solution to such crises is persevering in the face of a decision. Make them known child right from the very beginning, and if they try to break and make a crisis do not give up any form.
For example, go to a playground and you intend to stay only an hour – tell this child and reminds them 15 minutes before she is leaving shortly.

At the departure time he will try to persuade you, he will scream, howl, but you will have to stay true to the rule to prevent such behaviour in the future.

If problems persist, do not hesitate to ask the opinion of a psychologist about these things. After a little discussion, he can give you some clues as to their cause.

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HOW CAN YOU UNDERSTAND WHAT STYLE OF LEARNING TAKES YOUR CHILD?

1.The main learning styles of children
2. What is your child’s learning style?
2.1. Visual learning style
2.2. Auditory learning style
2.3. Tactilo-kinesthetic learning style
3. Suitable methods to stimulate children learning
3.1. Auditory learning tools for children
3.2. Visual learning tools for children
3.3. Tactilo-kinesthetic learning tools for children

Identifying and understanding learning styles is essential for the growth of the child’s school performance and how they develop intelligence. For the small to handle well at school, it is recommended to determine the learning style that suits him and to help him acquire new knowledge easier methods and suitable tools! Learning is an essential process to kindergarten or school.

Some children learn more easily and do better in lessons and themes, while others show difficulties to retain and correctly render the information taught in school. The reason that most children do not perform at school is not appropriately stimulated to learn!

The main learning styles of children

Before trying to identify which learning style of your child, it is important to know what are the main types that we offer the specialists:

Auditory learning style;
Visual learning style;
Tactilo-kinesthetic learning style.
What is your child’s learning style?

Each of the three major learning styles and teaching methods has its own characteristics that help children do better in school. Here are the characteristics of each learning style:

Visual learning style

Learning style is specific to children with visual photographic memory that retains information after previously sees them:

-It is based on visual sense to explore and discover the environment;

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-likes to read quietly (any noise, how small, distracting him from reading);

-He is very attentive to detail, especially visual

-It has a highly developed sense of observation;

-It is passionate about shapes, colours, illustrations, maps, meaning any visual aids that mediates knowledge;

-closely follows the lips during a conversation;

-He is passionate about visual arts: painting, drawing, photography, film etc.

Auditory learning style

-It has highly developed sense of hearing;

-It is a good orator and likes to talk a lot – he likes to explain to issue opinions or views etc.;

-easily absorb and retain the information they hear about;

-easily retains hear songs you play them frequently and accurately;

-easily learn music in the background;

-retain the lessons easier if you read poems aloud.

Tactilo-kinesthetic learning style

Experts believe that the kinaesthetic tactile style is own by any child. It is the first learning tool that retains information even from the age of being a baby. However, is develop in by some children more than others, becoming a dominant learning style:

-feels the need to explore things around by touch, probing;

-He likes to engage in activities that require skill or insight;

-He likes to use his hands to manipulate objects, play with them or discover their purpose;

-associates information surrounding objects easier to retain them;

-prefer to engage in physical and practical activities such as hiking or scientific experiments to learn valuable information about things around;

-and they are active in sports or hobbies practical arts;

-More gestures when talking or explaining.

Suitable methods to stimulate learning children

After you identify the category or learning style that fits your child, it is important to consider and methods, tools or specific activities that will help it easier to process information and to excel in school plan. Each style has its own tools for learning by developing skills and helps the child to understand and retain new knowledge easier:

Auditory learning tools for children

-Audiobooks (the child will withhold easier poems, lessons or other information if they are recorded on a tape recorder or phone and played consistently, will also retain the main ideas of a story if we hear an audiobook, unless you read in books);

-Staging of plays and poems (converted lesson of chemistry, physics and mathematics in a play or poetry, you repeat together, aloud);

-Toys with bells, which convey auditory educational information.

Visual learning tools for children

-Memory games (based on support from visual media, such as cards or pictures);

-video documentaries, cartoons and educational films (for school lessons or watching their explanation through documentaries or images more easily help children retain the main ideas);

-illustrated books, dominated by images (encyclopaedias, atlases etc.);

-Educational video games;

-drawing or painting, but also encourage other types of visual arts among its current activities.

Tactilo-kinesthetic learning tools for children

-skill games (Lego, puzzles, construction sets, crafted tools etc.);

-encourage him to play sports (it involves the child in all kinds of sports);

-hiking, travel, scientific experiments etc. – Which can extract theoretical information in a practical and accessible level of understanding;

-involve him in chores – cleaning, cooking, etc.

Most children do not enrol in the pattern of a single learning style. Usually they are mixed together, giving birth mixed learning styles: auditory and visual, kinaesthetic and auditory, visual and kinaesthetic, etc. Even if your child manifest features of several types of learning, there is always a dominant style.

So, if the child shows signs of at least two learning styles, it is advisable to take into account specific educational tools and methods both styles but focusing on dominant.

Your child that has a dominate learning style and you have methods by which stimulate him easier to withhold information? Share your opinions and your suggestions in the comments section below

SPORTS FOR CHILDREN. GUIDE BY AGE

1. Sports for children. Guide/age
2. > 3 years
3. 3 – 4 years
3.1. Gymnastics
3.2. Dance sportive
3.3. Martial arts
4. Between 4 – 6 years
4.1. Tennis
4.2. Basket
5. 6 – 8 years
5.1. Football
5.2. Fencing
5.3. Volley-ball


Sports for children. Guide to age

Physical activity is a very important factor that you have to keep in mind if you want your child to be healthy and develop harmoniously. It is important to inspire your children love sport since they are young that they do not become sedentary adults and to avoid health problems that can arise from lack of movement.

When choosing a sport for your child you should keep in mind several criteria’s beginning with age. Some activities are not required for the child physically and mentally so it’s important to choose a sport you have your child’s age. you must not forget any of the little personality when you opt for a particular sport.

We*(the parents) have to consider his options and personality. If you are not interested, do not force that could cause a revulsion against any kind of physical activity. The same rule is valid and if after a period in which I was pleased to get involved in sport wants to quit.

For some sports, the macro-template the team will have to wait until at least six years, but even until this age child can participate in various sports activities.

We present a guide for ages to choose one type of activity appropriate for your child.

     Up to 3 years

Babies cannot keep a ball in hand and are not sufficiently developed to practice a sport itself, but that does not mean you have to forget all about physical activity.

Recognized by experts as the best sport is swimming for babies. Experts say in unison that it brings countless benefits to the little. Incidentally, this sport can be practiced throughout their lives.

Starting three months your baby can go quiet with in the pool because they are accustomed to an environment like in the womb. New-born’s have the ability to activate their diving reflex.

Swimming develop capacity and muscle around. The little will gain independence and confidence in him and will develop harmoniously. Experts say that babies who began swimming practice early, sit bottom and take the first steps earlier than other children.

If you decide to go it on your baby swimming centre, you must carefully choose which to him frequently. It is important that pool water be at least 31 degrees Celsius and not be filtered with chlorine, but in ways that do not irritate your baby’s skin.

Meanwhile, up to 3 years old child can play games or type “Leapsa” or can climb in playgrounds.

       3-4 years’ old

Since the age of 3 years in a sport you can think of interaction. Here are some options.

  Gymnastics

You may have noticed that most gymnasts evolving Olympics confess that they started practicing this sport since 3 years. Even if you do not want your little one to practice performance sports, although it might be an option, gymnastics is one of the sports recommended for children 3-4 years.

Increase strength, develop muscles, improves flexibility and coordination. Workouts are light jumping, climbing and balancing exercises.

   Sportive dance

A sport that develops your child’s artistic sense is dance sport, and at 3-4 years is a perfect choice. An energetic child will feel great on rhythms and will consume energy in a constructive way.

Develop concentration and teamwork skills.

  martial arts

Perfect for a shy child, but for a little energetic and always playful, martial arts can be learned again from 3-4 years. Of course, we talk about basic techniques and not fighting styles.

Will help the small to increase their self-confidence and discipline, will help him in emotional development.

   4-6 years

Since the age of 4 years we can acquaint children with sports ball and we can introduce in team sports, being old enough to understand the game rules and meet the objectives set by the coach. Here you can choose:

  Tennis

If we refer to the Court, between 4 and 6 years old child talk about getting used missiles – it’s important for them to be suitable age, height and weight of the child and not too heavy – with balls.       During this period teach the basic movements to become familiar with the service or volley kicks.

Help develop mobility, coordination and reflexes. It is a sport that builds the child’s personality. It will cause to think strategically organized and helping to create a mental discipline.

  Basket

Like in the case of tennis at Bachet 4 – 6 years get familiar with the principles of the game. It should be used instead smaller and lighter, and the panels should be placed at a lower height, but it’s good to know that at 5 years can practice successfully.

Develop team spirit and precision. It is also known that basketball and favors increasing in height 6-8 years with the age of six years and we can think about other sports. Here you can choose for your little.

  Football 

This sport begins at 6 years. Due to the popularity of many boys will go to football clubs. It is also an extremely fun sport accepted by many people. Football is a collective sport what it teaches teamwork and your child will foster interaction with other children his age. Develop leg muscles in particular and contribute to a harmonious whole.

  Fencing 

Starting six years you can think and to the fencing, a sport not very popular here, but to win followers, especially after the Romanians international success. Contribute to the harmonious physical development, develop speed, strength, endurance and skill, disciplines and increases power concentrate child.

   Volley-ball 

6 – 8 years and it is time for volleyball, a sport that will develop agility and alertness child will develop his coordination, and reaction speed will determine the development. Physical activity is a very important factor and that you have to keep in mind if you want your children to be healthy and develop harmoniously. It is important to inspire your children love sport since they were young that they do not become sedentary adults and to avoid health problems that can arise from lack of movement.

HOW TO TALK WITH YOUR CHILD AT EVERY AGE

1. Communication with the child 0-2 years
2. Communication with the child 3-5 years
3. Communication child 6-12 years
4. Communication with the child 13-18 years

Communication with your child is one aspect that many parents often remain in disciplining and educating the child. The reason is that they fail to recognize how you communicate when baby is small, to identify its needs, and respond to them in an appropriate register his age. Discover how to talk with your child at every age, depending on emotional development and language and speech skills available in each stage of childhood!

Communication with the child 0-2 years

If you think does not matter much communication with the child at this age you’re wrong! Even if you do not speak and neither has developed complex intellectual capacities, it is important to communicate to him the very first moments of life. Your speech to be rather frightened, baby explanatory against any and curious of everything happening around him.

It is also the period of separation anxiety that occurs when you’re forced to go back to work. It is advisable to prepare in advance of emotionally for this moment be bearable for him.

Even if you do not understand everything that you say, your voice and tone warm and friendly they will alleviate the anxiety and will make them feel safe. The explanations should not be long and rich in detail, which anyway does not understand, but short and to the point. Tell him that you love him all the time and it is safe, and that you’ll always be near him when he needs you.

Communication with the child 3-5 years

Starting with preschool age, the child is able to express feelings and emotions into words. It is recommended to work with this issue and to help him to quit so the tantrums or violent behaviour’s that usually express anger or negative emotions.

Ready to answer the most uncomfortable questions about sex, children, God, death or other things you hear about. No matter how embarrassing or sad are the subjects, it is important to be honest with him, but to adjust your speech to his level of understanding. When it comes to subjects with negative charge – divorce, death etc. – It is important to make sure you’re near him whatever happens, that you love and that you will protect them from any harm would. Such insurance will “sweeten” a bit tedious discussions and reduce the anxiety that it contains during these discussions.

To avoid giving explanations on topics unpleasant times to attend if the child starts talking bad times to offend those around him, it is important to limit its exposure to media sources – TV, internet, radio – but be careful and jargon around him.

Communication with child 6-12 years

Starting with preschool speech and language used in communicating with the child can develop into discussions increasingly more complex and elaborate. Is able to understand and utter increasingly more words, therefore, be encouraged to use them in appropriate contexts.

Curiosity continues to be a characteristic of this age, and questions of him will be increasingly more complex and interesting. The child will manifest curiosity about the experiences that passes, the news we hear about or talks to a witness. Always ask him how he feels when he hears and sees on television or a tragic event when forced to go through the death of your pet or a loved one. Reassure them that it is normal to be sad, cry and even to worry about what happens, but you’re near him, whatever happens you will get over it.

And fears and fears period is, therefore, indicated that these negative feelings to be identified properly understood by the child and successfully overcome by proper explanations. Even if it is inevitable to dodge everything that happens around him, trying to assure an environment more peaceful, harmonious and positive in which to grow and develop. And in times that this is impossible, make sure you’re honest with him, you do not isolate the events taking place in the family and that tell how much you love him.

Communication with the child 13-18 years

At age 13, the child enters, if it has not already done so, in adolescence, one of the most delicate and complicated stages of childhood, from both a physically and emotionally. It is a time rich in mood swings, “butterflies in the stomach”, conflicts and acts of rebellion from child looking his own identity.

It is the stage where you face a lot of answers deemed “naughty”, the contradictions and violations of the rules. All behaviour’s rebel who venture adolescently mask, in fact, his feelings and are considered forms of defence against vulnerability is exposed when it feels insecure.

It is the period in which you must give proof of patience more than ever and get close to him, to help him communicate and open in front of you. Show him how much can solve and overcome with words and understanding their own emotions. Demonstrate him that you are next to him in overcoming this complex phases. Be the person on whose shoulder the child crying and that helps him understand what is happening to him and the tensions and behavioural problems will become just unpleasant memories.

Your child’s age and what you encounter communication problems in the relationship with him? What do you think are the best and efficient communication leverage every age child? Tell us your opinions in the comments section below.

CHILD LEARN ABOUT SAVINGS, EXPENSES AND LIABILITIES

  1.Teach by example
  2. Explain the savings and interest

Value of money and financial advice are lessons that children must receive them from parents, not friends, at school or in the media. Early financial education can have a beneficial effect on how your child learns to spend their money and save for later. The simplest way is to assign your child a sum of money every month, which to teach them how to spend, explaining about how sometimes you postpone a desire to fulfil it better later.

    Teach by example

Children are more tempted to take the example of parents than to hear their theory lessons so you must have a responsible fiscal behaviour if you want to take your kids the same values. Teens, and young children can learn a lot if you explain how spending part of the family budget. When unexpected expenses arise, make sure that children understand where the money will come from and what should you be deprived.

    Explain savings and interest

Giving the child a monthly allowance of pocket money, which supplement only in exceptional circumstances, is the easiest way to teach them the value of money. If you want something you cannot afford to buy the allowances, stimulates them to save a little every month and then help them to buy what they want, adding a third or even half of final expense. Give them an interest even when they manage to save money and give them the option to borrow from you with interest. Once you discover that they are tired of a game or a toy bought very quickly, but have to pay her for a few months, will be more cautious with how they spend money. Fiscal responsibility is one of the most important skills that your kids have to head to you, to become adults to be able to manage money well and do not accumulate debt they cannot pay.

THE MEANING OF MONEY for the CHILDREN AT ANY AGE

When it comes to money if you do not have patience until the child understands once that money does not grow on trees, like they earn and work hard and that you do not have infinite amounts of money.     Discover how evolve their understanding of money to children at every age between 2 and 8 years old!

2 years
Money is a concrete representation of an abstract idea, and children 2 years old are not able to understand this. If you give to a baby a coin definitely more of a jab in the mouth, throw or try to break than to put into a piggy bank.
Still child of 2 years can understand the definition primitive but concrete money – that means money coins and lions – and that they can use to shop in exchange for things.


3 years
From 3 years, the child can begin to identify coins by type if sufficiently exposed and if you’re concerned about this and constantly talking about them.
As the child develops mental capacity and is exposed to environments and situations that arise in transactions of money, he begins to understand that money has value.

If you give a 3-year-old child a coin is likely to understand that they can get something in return.

4 years

Many 4-year old children can understand “commercial aspect” of money, so that, if put in a position to give money to a teller, he knows he will not receive back. But they do not understand price differences and what it can buy a coin and what not. If the child has a coin he thinks he can buy an entire store with her. During this stage of childhood child can understand that money comes out of a job and they are limited, meaning parents do not have money without number. They can understand and some people have more money to others and those who have more might help those with less.

5 years

Starting five years the child begins to have a representation gradually becoming more realistic money. Can you even begin to give him a small allowance as of this age that you have in management, of course with a few guidelines from you? If I explain that with a banknote you can buy a toy (if you collect more time), while one coin (which is now) they cannot take just a candy, the child will understand that. It understands that there is value for money and a price difference. But it will most likely opt for candy, because they live very much anchored in the present and immediate satisfactions. Piggy bank is a good idea for children this age. But it needs to manage it and to understand that if you collect coins will have greater satisfaction in the future.


To 6 years
Money saving concept will catch that increasingly shape the child 6 years old. But the idea of ​​the future is unclear for him, so we set short-term goals with them.
At the end of kindergarten and early school child is apt to numbers which can help in managing their pennies and counting. Also at these age children can make the difference between “wanting” and “needing”.


To 7 years
The child of school age can appreciate that have options when it comes to coins. He also will not settle for coins. You know that money is worth very little and will not be too thrilled whenever it will get! Expectations increase as you get older!


To 8 years
Will turn 8 years old until the child will understand the real value of currencies. You will know exactly where money is 5, 10 or 50 cash money.
But the child becomes increasingly more understanding and open to the idea of ​​delayed reward (saving money in the future to an end). It will also have a better representation of the idea of ​​the future. So long-term goals are more realistic and to put into practice at this age.

THE STORY OF MONEY.

HOW TO ENCOURAGE FRIENDSHIPS BETWEEN GIRLS AND BOYS?

  1. Encourage small children to play with the opposite sex
  2. Establish joint meetings play
  3. Discrimination based on sex is no recommended
  4. Make parties for children
  5. Do not make generalizations and be a positive example

Encourage friendships between children of different sex is essential to avoid the formation of gender stereotypes or prejudices that may affect development and social integration of the children. Specialist Richard Fabes, director of a school specializing in social and family dynamics in Arizona, noted with concern that most children to make friends with little ones of the same sex with them until the age of 5-6 years, even being encouraged their parents. It is a measure that you develop the wrong mind set, which could pose problems later in how they integrate in the community. Encourage small children to play with the opposite sex When small child has a natural attraction for kids of the same sex with him when the park or on the playground. It is your job to encourage it to play with children of the opposite sex, to find common interests that they could share to help it develop healthy life beliefs.

Allow your child to test specific activities and games for both sexes. If your little girl wished to engage in a game of football on the playground allow them to try. If your son wants to attend a ” tea dancing ” with dolls and girls, encourage him to do it and to give their own account so if you like it or not such activity. He has the opportunity to learn from experience more about the differences between girls and boys and, why not, to better understand their world. Joint meetings play sets Playing meetings are essential for developing social skills of the child, but also to develop the spirit of generosity and empathy. Although you might be tempted to call such meetings only children of the same sex with him, it is recommended that they be mixed, says psychologist Christia Spears Brown, a psychologist at the University of Kentucky, USA.

Think neutral few games and activities interesting to both sexes (games, mime, Lego etc.), and then leave them alone to find common interests. It is a method to help children see beyond the limits of a so-called world of ” little boys ” or ” girls ” and grow in a flexible environment without stereotypes or prejudices.
Does not discriminate on the basis of sex is not the case
Yes, it’s true that boys must use their public bath or dress pants only, but is far from true that blue is their colour specify that only they play with cars or sports.

If not, do not discriminate by gender using your colours, activities and games that cataloguing them as ” the girls ” or ” boys ”

Make parties for children
Whether it is a birthday party, Halloween or Day of the Child, children of different sexes gather together and let them interact and enjoy fun activities together. Easier to attract girls and boys together, it is advisable to avoid theme parties focused on topics related to only one genre.

For example, if you have a little girl, avoid parties with princesses, which could make the boys feel embarrassed. Addresses rather a neutral theme – the circus, animals, etc., where children of both sexes will feel good.

No generalizations and be a positive example
Avoid cataloguing some kind or another in a certain way or to generalize by saying “all men are disorganized” or “all women are sensitive,” especially if you’re around the child.

It is not advisable to develop such a mentality and that might create problems later in childhood or adulthood. Treat both genders equally, especially in your interactions with others and avoid name-calling or negative comments against one sex or another.

Your child has a mixed group of friends or just prefer the company of other children of the same sex with him? You call what tricks or activities to encourage your baby to play with tots of the opposite sex? Tell us your suggestions in the comments section below.

HOW TO ASK OUR CHILD HOW WAS SCHOOL?

The next week summer vacantion is over and children, young people, go back to their school desks and institutions. Parents start again their routine and everyday conversation will be like an examination:

’’Wake up!/Did you wake up?/Did you make your toilet?/Get dressed!/ Why are you dressed so weak?/ That’s what you are going to wear today?/ Eat!/ Don’t forget your lunchbox./Did you do your homework? / When? Already? How can you have nothing to learn?/ What are your grades for today? How was school/kindergarten?’’ These questions have been leaving traces for generations, we still get scared about the feeling we had when we had to answer.

As a mother, I think I will ask my children the same questions and have the same conversations. I don’t feel very confortable about this, especially when I know that the process of information extraction after getting a monosyllabic answer, will be difficult.

Therefor, I decided to concentrate on one question which is very important to me and I think about other ways to ask my son without repeating the same question over and over again, without any result.

I’ve chosen the question ’’How was school/kindergarten?’’. The invariable answer you always get is ’’ Good’’. If our son/daughter is in a good mood, can add what said the teacher or what did his playmate. But, the majority of the answers we will hear will be „ good” or will include „ good”. I’m interested to know how was it, what did he like, what didn’t, what did he learn. Therefor , this is what I shall ask. This is my creative questions list that I use on this topic to help us communicate to little ones.

  1. What did you like today at kindergarten?

  2. What was the worst thing that happened today at kindergarten?

  3. Tell me one new thing you’ve learned today!

  4. If you could choose, who would you sit next? Why? But, who wouldn’t you sit next? Why?

  5. Which the greatest place from school/kindergarten?

  6. Tell me one weird thing you’ve heard today. Or one weird thing someone said.

  7. If I would talk to your teacher on the phone , what would she say?

  8. How did you help someone today? What was your contribution?

  9. How did someone help you today?

  10. When was your today’s happiest moment?

  11. When were you borred today?

  12. If an alien came to your group and kidnapped someone, whom would you

want to and why?

  1. Who would you like to play in the group which you have not played before. Why haven’t you played by now ?

  2. Tell me 3 good things that happened today at school/kindergarten.

  3. What was you tacher’s most repeated word today?

  4. What would you like to learn or do more at school/kindergarten?

  5. What would you like to learn or do less at school/kindergarten?

  6. Who do you think should have a better attitude towards you from your class?

  7. Who is the funniest person from your class? Why is she/he funny? What did he/she do?

  8. If you were teacher /pedagogue tomorrow, what would you do?

  9. If you were to change places with anyone in the class who would you change with ? Why?

  10. Tell me which were those 3 times when you used your pen today?

I would choose words from my child’s vocabulary „funny”, „cool” or characters like alien, dinosaur, Tinkerbell.

The tone plays a very important role, therefor needs to be carefully chosen in order not to make you child feel questioned. And this is very hard to do when the question comes naturally when you go to take him / her from school/ kindergarden. That’s why my last recommendation would be not to rush this conversation , but to catch the moment for it. Without driving, cooking or house cleaning.

What are your recommendations?

12 ADVICES TO PARENTS FROM CHILDREN

It’s hard to believe that you can learn child rearing tips from your own child, isn’t it? Despite his age, a child can be a wellspring of life leasons and wisdom that can help you become a better parent. Even if he can’t express himself through sophisticated words and complex phrases, their behaviour evoke the most sincere, simple and inspirational messages.

  1. Recognized mistake is half forgiven. Why are you yelling,then?

  2. I’m not rude. I just want attention!

  3. You want me to learn things, but you’re not letting me do anything!

  4. I’m not serious when I say that I hate you or that I don’t love you anymore! I’m just furious!

  5. Always keep your promises! How can I trust you , then?

  6. You can be more severe and authoritative to me sometimes. I know I make mistakes!

  7. Nicknames and jokes on me, frustrate me!

  8. If you love and hug me, doesn’t mean you pamper me!

  9. Don’t scold me all the time! Once, I will stop listening to you!

  10. Take me shopping with you! How am I supposed to know what’s money and what it’s meant for?

  11. Don’t scold me in public! It’s not polite!

  12. Don’t fulfill all my desires! I don’t need all the things I ask for!

ADVICES A PARENT SHOULD GIVE TO HIS CHILD

  1. Teach him to be himself, but not who you are: ex. don’t ask him to be a violinist, only because you wanted to be at his age.

  2. Tell him how happy you are for his success and don’t point on things he did wrong.

  3. Ask his opinion about things that are important to you.

  4. Encourage him to ask questions and discuss respectfully to other people-including doctor, policeman, teachers or other elder people. Ask him to respect their auhority, but never feel inferior towards them.

  5. Teach him that sometimes you will make mistakes. When you do it, recognize it!
  6. When you are wrong about him, apologize. Ask him to do the same thing towards you.
  7. Tell him it’s ok to make mistakes, everybody makes mistakes. Ask him to assume them and fix them, with your help if necessary. Help him fix his mistakes.
  8. Teach him shake hands firmly.
  9. Ask him to look in the eye the person his talking to or greeting. Get used to look at him while talking to him as well.
  10. You’re his parent , not his friend. If you don’t understand the difference, think about how confused he’s going to be when his friend disciplines him.
  11. You’re his parent and his friend. It seems like it contradicts the preceding sentence, but it doesn’t. Sometimes you’re daddy, sometimes you’re dad. Sometimes you’re mommy, sometimes you’re mom. The child needs them both. I didn’t understand this leason untill a friend enlightened me.
  12. Respect your partner in the presence of your child and out of it. Teach him that in a relationship reciprocal respect is essencial. May be more important than love.
  13. Teach him that sleeping hours are crucial. Respect his and ask him to respect yours.
  14. Teach him to call you at work. Always answer the phone calls.If he’s too small to call you, teach him to ask people that take care of him(grandmother, nanny) to call you.
  15. Ask him to clean up after him. If he’s too small, do it together. Teach him that he has to do it himself or at least to help.
  16. If he has broken something, ask his help when you fix it. Even if it’s just giving a screwdriver, teach him to take responsability for his deeds. Tell him he broken it and he has to participate in repairing it. It’s very weird to hear situations when children distroy the entire house and parents have to fix everything while their children are watching TV. In this way , parents become their childrens’ slaves.
  1. Teach him to return borrowed things. And take back things he borrowed to other children .Explain that he shouldn’t feel ashamed of it.
  2. Explain him that toys, sweets and any other thing costs.Explain that you go to work to earn money. Don’t let him believe that you get it magically from ATM. My child used to believe that ATM is a magical machine that produces money.
  3. When you go to pay the bills , take him with you. Explain him that you paid for current, gas, car rate etc- with age appropriate words. A very good book about the finantial education of children is ’’Rich child, smart child’’ by Robert Kiyosaki. Read it!
  4. Don’t buy everything he asks for, even if you aford it. Tell him sometimes that you don’t have money. He needs to understand that he can’t get 100% of what he wants.
  5. Teach him that nothing is for free. Everything has a price, not necessarily in money.
  6. Teach him not to be wasteful: to turn off the light when he leaves the room, not to throw good stuff . Thsese are small steps, which will consist the base of his adult vision about money management and resourses in general.
  7. Encourage him to make economies: give him a money box and ecourage him to save money for a trip, a bike, or something important. For every saved (leu), promise him you’ll give another one , to pay for the trip. Keep your promise.
  8. Don’t permite him to hit other children, if he hasn’t been hit himself.
  9. Teach him how to defence himself and ask him to do it if he gets hit . A controversial advice,but I think when another child hits him, he needs to defend himself.
  10. Tell him about our national heroes. King Carol I, Stefal cel Mare, Mihai Viteazu, King Ferdinant, Avram Iancu, Queen Mery, artists, scientists, sportives, inventors etc. He’s going to like Superman much more, but at least the idea of national heroes is important. See the list with biographical books for another ideas.
  11. Show affection to your life partner in front of him. Even if he will say that it’s disgusting, he’ll like it.
  12. Let him get dirty. Clothes can be washed.
  13. Ensure him he’s not going to die if he bleeds a little.
  14. Take him with you at work from time to time. Take him when you have to solve different problems- to market, shopping, tailor, friends meeting. Explain him what happened there. When it’s possible, let him help you, even if is going to last much more this way. For example, at market to put the fruits in the weighing. I tested it and I ensure you he’s going to be excited.
  15. If you ask him for something, you have to do it the same way yourself. Personal example is the most powerful.
  16. If you did something you asked him not to, recognize it. If you ask him not to swear, don’t do it yourself . If you say one or two inappropriate words under traffic circumstances and he tells you’ve spoken dirty, recognize it and tell him you’re sorry. Try to abstain next time.
  17. Be sure that he knows that home is always safe.
  18. Limit his TV and computer access.
  19. Don’t buy him an animal just untill he’s ready to be responsible for him.
  20. Praise him when he achieved something. Can be little things, it’s not necessary to echieve something fantastic. Praise the effort,not the inteligence.
  21. Don’t tolerate tantrums . Not at 3 years , not at 18. Being an adult , nobody will tolerate this.
  22. Don’t let him give up when he’s discouraged. Hepl him, if necessary(but don’t solve the problem for him). Always insist that he has to solve it, you’ll just help him a little.
  23. Encourage him to walk barefoot, when permited.
  24. Teach him not to be afraid of animals, but to respect them.
  25. Don’t accept him to hurt the animals. Even if it’s a poor cat, accepting it, you teach him that it’s ok to hurt someone without a reason. Teach him that every life is precious.
  26. Talk to him about what he wants to be as an adult. Don’t get discouraged by his answers.
  27. Explain that giving your word is taking commitment. And don’t forget, he’s following you.
  28. Boys are like baby lions- show their affection through fight as well. When they provoke you, accept it.
  29. When his pet dies, help him bury it.Give him an explanation about it.Talk about death.
  30. Being precautious, tell him about bad people and what should he do when he’s approached by a strager.Teach him to be precautious.Explain him that there’re gestures that are not appropriate and to tell you immediatly as it happens to him.
  31. Don’t lead his fights.
  32. Ecourage him to read many books.When he’s little, read to him books for children. They will help him gain general knowledge, great vocabulary, a varied and complex vision about the world. You can find examples of books for development in our online library- free online books list.
  33. He needs to see you reading.
  34. Don’t tell him never to cry. Ask him instead why is he crying and talk about it.
  35. Let him finish what he has to say. I know it’s hard, it seems really hard to me too, especially that my son could talk hours at a stretch.The idea is to show him he is listened and that his opinions matter to you. Ask questions to show him that you listen to him.
  36. Enourage him to start a collection- stamps, coins, stickers, toy cars etc.
  37. Insist to wash his hands before the meal.
  38. Encourage him to talk about his dreams, about what he wants to do for the future. Tell him about yours.
  39. Involve him in your hobbies.
  40. Tell him about God, Jesus, Moise. Start it when he’s young. It will help him develope his spiritual life as an adult.
  41. Teach him to pray to God. Encourage him to do it. Even when God replies with a ’’No’’.
  42. Forgive his mistakes. Teach him that forgiving you’re not weak, nor silly.
  43. Teach him that is easier to lose someone’s trust than to gain it.
  44. Help him make a list of his most admired people and talk about their qualities. Don’t get affected if you’re not in the list.
  45. Teach him to set objectives and work to achieve them. Start with little things.
  46. Show him what and how can he learn from failures.
  47. Don’t criticize him in front of his friends.
  48. Teach him to be punctual and to announce if he’s late. Always.
  49. Teach him that there’s nothing that’s worth being stolen.
  50. Encourage him to follow his instincts.If something seems wrong, probably it is.
  51. Teach him that he can overcome the fear only confrunting it.

I want you to complete the list. What would you teach your child or your future child? What do you think he should know abot life,but you as a parent, what should you learn?